![]() With radio silence you are trying to teach someone who runs, to stay, by you running or participating in not communicating. When sufferers run, and their partners are firmly planted and don't waiver we learn from them what a normal relationship is like, we learn trust. Remember trust and stability is everything. Radio silence.you may get the person physically back for a little time but why would they stay if they can't trust you. At this point in the timeline your ex will wonder why you haven’t reached out to them and why you haven’t tried to get them back. After the initial relief your ex will feel right after the breakup, the next stages of no contact (usually after a one to three weeks) put your ex in a stage of curiosity. Remember the person with PTSD isn't doing this to hurt you. Stage 2 of No Contact for Dumper: Curiosity. Usually a little text saying something like "the pot of coffee is on when you are ready - once a day" keeps me grounded. Why? For a person who isolates and disassociates, out of sight is out of mind. Now just saying the door is open when you are ready to me isn't very effective. Lashing out, reacting, going radio silent just makes us feel validated in leaving. This establishes trust, and puts the onus on the person with PTSD. Second if we do walk out, the best thing you can do is what I call give us little nuggets, these are encouraging words and let us know you are waiting for them to come home and believe in then. If we don't want to talk or need time to process please back off - it is like information or sensory over load. So what counters this? Compassion!įirst, before it gets to a break up or time out, give the person some space. A comparison of the two strategies to get an ex back after a breakup. Yes, there are some people who do this to get their ex back, like me, but others do it to be. However, suffering also occurs when the other person imposes radio silence on us. There was a lot of resentment and self-deprecation after this huge failure. So if a person is trying to shut me out, I just accept it as over and I have no problem going on dates. Radio Silence to get your ex back and radio silence versus no contact. It didn’t work out for me, and obviously I suffered a lot. This is so counter productive with PTSD sufferers.įirst sufferers are experts at isolating and disassociating. There is x amount of time (30 days or longer) to not talk to a person. ![]() ![]() I was speaking to a co-worker who was telling me about on-line advice about going radio silent after a break up. ![]()
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